Smaller town vs. Bigger town

I just had an epiphany about smaller towns, bigger towns, and friends. In a smaller towns there is less, and true this can be looked at as a disadvantage but because there is less you devote your time more to everything that is. I now have a theory that people in smaller towns form stronger bonds with other people than people who live in larger towns. And even though you may have best friends wherever you live it's just the set up that guarantees so.

First and of course obviously being further apart geographically means that it is less convenient to see each other, and therefore you will see each other less. Than due to the larger geography, there is a higher probability that you will be involved in something between them and you. More stores means lower chance that you will just randomly bump into them in the community. More acquittance's means higher probability that you will find your time being spent with someone else. More restaurants means you frequent the same ones less. More activities to participate in means that there is less relying on each other, and each other's imagination for entertainment.

Being in a small town forces you to reach new levels of understanding of every piece or your surroundings (Like playing disc golf in the Costco parking lot). And this is the key, the natural evolution of the higher level friendship. The inside joke, which leads to the deepest laugh. The subtle barely noticeable levels of communication, feelings instantly communicated with a single twitch. The distinct organization of events, guaranteeing a good time. And people crave this. People crave this deep down. We love deep bonds. Marriage is a super deep bond.

It is exact opposite of meeting someone new, the handshake, the first words, the first awkward interaction, so surface level, so formal, so necessary because you don't know each other and therefore have no connection at all. Meeting someone new can of course be fun, fun to enter a new world quickly, don't think I'm bashing on it, I'm also craving new. It's just always nice to have your carefully precisely organized laboratory to digest it in.

Which basically leads me to conclude that for every advantage there is an equal an opposite disadvantage, going both ways. And I can truly state this in today's world because we have the Internet, so back water just really doesn't apply the way it use to.

What started this all is there is a friend that came to our town for college, we became friends and now she is back out of our lives living in another place. But during that short time we managed to establish enough of a bond that I will have no trouble interacting with her in the future indefinitely. A small town is like a family, guaranteeing a bond.

And this is why at my bosses party I went to I thought it was good of her to bring strangers from all walks of life, but they didn't seem to have that same emph of energy, how could they? After the party they will once again be scattered to the wind perhaps to never encounter again. Don't tell me that humans like that. And we do bring it to the large city in some ways though, the smaller college, the neighborhood. Yes there is great value in bringing closeness to the larger city, because we weren't designed to live in such a high population, only moder technology has created it and allowed it.

And now I understand that this urge I have to run to Goleta and stick my head in it is legit. I'm getting something I'm not getting here, and that cannot truly be replicated.